8 Things to Stop Using Facebook For

8 Things to Stop Using Facebook For

I know I’m not the only one alarmed at our dependency on smartphones in general. But tweaking specific aspects of our usage could deeply benefit a better version of ourselves in the future. Imagine the difference it would make in your ability to be a present person, if you changed the way you use Facebook in the these 8 ways in particular.

Before I dive into it- let me be the FIRST TO SAY I have and do currently use Facebook in every single one of these ways. It’s something I’m constantly trying to find balance with.

What I’m trying to say here is-no judgement is being passed. I just believe we should ALL make a stronger effort to quit using Facebook in the following ways:

1. A time filler

Waiting in life is a given. In line at the grocery store, in the parking lot waiting for the kids to get out of school, at the bus stop…all day every day we have bits and pieces of time that is 100% ours to do with as we please. As harmless as it seems to whip out our phone during these times, in making these devices our constant go-to we unintentionally breed the addiction.

2. Applause over accomplishment.

Many times I have hurried to announce miniscule progress made on big goals of mine on Facebook. Personal things that made me feel vulnerable. When I received a mass amount of engagement on these posts, I felt almost as proud as I would imagine I’d feel if I had actually already achieved these goals before announcing. Which leads me to understand that by posting a goal I made before achieving it, only gave me the illusion that I had already accomplished something. The incoming flood of dopamine provided me with a false sense of achievement, enabling me to become soft on my goals, and unfortunately never following through.

3. Validation

It’s great when you can find something that enhances your self confidence. I AM LITERALLY ALL FOR IT. This one is only on the list because it’s dangerous when you begin to RELY on this to feel secure in yourself.

4. Stalking your ‘enemies.’

Been there, done that! (which is why I explicitly said I’m not judging you!) But not only is it a waste of your time, it also propagates negative feelings. When you spend time in a state of judgement on another, you are simply fucking up your vibes.

5. Comparison.

There’s that pesky insecurity. The link between social media use and depression is staggering… The more time we spend on there, the more we inevitably compare our lives to others. You ain’t got time for it, and neither do I!

6. Your news source.

Just….please….don’t.

7. Your diary.

NO *handclap* ONE *handclap* CARES! *handclap*

8. To vent.

Again. Your account- your decision. All I know is, many times we say/type things in the heat of the moment that we don’t necessarily mean. When we post to Facebook our thoughts are officially out there for the world to see. The more you can refrain from revealing the ugly sides of you the better.

Using Facebook in these ways keeps us unhealthily addicted to our smart pone devices. It was my intention with this article, to magnify the mess we create for ourselves- by highlighting the not-so-healthy reasons behind social media use. Facebook can give us an illusive feeling of connection. I don’t know about you, but for 2019 I’ll be focusing more of a genuine way of keeping in touch.

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2019 Goals: Social Media Changes

2019 Goals: Social Media Changes

‘Tis the season for thankfulness, giving, self reflection, and goal setting!

In the year of 2018 I struggled with finding balance between my writing aspirations, and the long list of duties that come with motherhood. In the last 12 months specifically, I have been challenged with almost more than I could bear, if I’m being real honest here.

At the moment however, my confidence in myself professionally is off the charts! I can feel it in my bones. This is my year.

I predict that 2019 is going to be a good one, because of the 3 distinct resolutions I’ve made.

The first- is to fiercely pursue my writing career. Thanks to the colossal heap of crap I have endured this year- I’ve learned a thing or two about myself. One of those things is, I can literally achieve anything I put my heart to.

Armed with good intentions, an eager-to-learn attitude, and a hyper focus on self improvement, how will I move anywhere BUT forward??

My second goal is to read 2-4 books a month- and write up book reviews for other people potentially on the fence about adding them to the reading list. (I mostly want to do this to learn about my industry, but also to combat the brain-drain that is social media.)

Which brings me to my third aim of 2019. And that is to stop using my social media in all the ways I’ve used it in the past.

For all the lofty goals I’ve made I need an environment that starves distraction- and feeds creativity. Social media fails miserably at both of these.

As an online writer, I require social media platforms to promote my work. Moving forward however, it will no longer be a major part of my personal life.

Have you noticed my new Facebook page for writing? Be a dear, and check it out! ‘Like” it to show your support if you’re feelin’ wild!

What lessons are you taking away from 2018? Are you too cool for new year resolutions or do you drink the kool aid? Please comment and share with me! And stay posted for those book reviews and more personal content as well.