“We Don’t Marry Strangers”

When you get engaged to be married, prepare yourself for a plethora of unsolicited advice. Especially if you are young.  And extra especially if you elope.  And extra EXTRA especially if you have only known your soon to be spouse a handful of weeks.

“Honey we just don’t marry strangers!”

Well, speak for yourself Aunt Sharon, but I’ve got myself a sexy man in an army uniform willing to give me a shiny ring and whisk me away from this stinky town…so…BYE LOVE YA WISH ME LUCK SEE YOU NEXT CHRISTMAS!

Looking back, I know that my Aunt (and every other single person in my family) had a point. And it would have been wise to take an extra month or twenty to re-evaluate this major life decision, but at 19 years old I knew it all!  Sure he was just a stranger…but he was MY stranger, and my stranger and I were going to make this work.

7 years later here we sit, on opposite ends of the couch while our two kids throw elbows in between us, and the one growing inside of me hops up and down on my bladder.

Has it been easy? HELL no. Have we ever tried to throw in the towel? At least a dozen times. But at the end of the day, we’re just a couple of broken kids who have grown into whole adults with, for, and because of each other. And so here I sit, overwhelmed with gratitude for the family we have together.

My point is, ALWAYS GO WITH YOUR GUT. No matter what it’s telling you. No offense but your intuition is probably smarter than you are. While ‘impulsive’ can be an ugly thing to be called, I have to say, in the end, it has certainly served me well.


Book Review: The Other 8 Hours by Robert Pagliarini

Book Review:  The Other 8 Hours by Robert Pagliarini

If you’re an entrepreneur who occasionally finds yourself spinning your wheels, this book may give you the the traction required to propel yourself into the success you’ve always dreamed about.

The Other 8 Hours is my first book review for the year of 2019, and I’m happy to report that the time I spent reading, was not time wasted.

In fact, I found myself taking several notes, because I genuinely found the information so relevant to the life I’m trying to create for myself. As a moonlighter and entrepreneur myself, I feel a sense of urgency to record all the ideas that jump out at me… before I return this book to its rightful owners at the public library.

(That sense of urgency may or may not have anything to do with a library fine, but you’ll never know.)

Pagliarini magnifies the importance of creating purposeful habits. Then teaches how to stack those habits up on top of each other to build the foundation of a monumental success.

By calling attention specifically to the way we spend our days, and how that bears a direct result on our quality of life, it urges readers to properly seize our moments.

Even if you’re an entrepreneur/ creator who already knows the value of your time, I’m still confident that The Other 8 hours will still be helpful in keeping your professional poop in a group.

Although there were things discussed that didn’t necessarily pertain to me, I viewed all information as relevant and believe this book provides an immense value to any entrepreneur.

I’d love to hear feedback from anyone else who has read it, or is thinking about reading it! I got my copy from the local library, but I’m sure you could find a nice deal on amazon, or even an audio version somewhere as well.

Beneficial Misfortune

Beneficial Misfortune
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While reading through an article recently, I came across this phrase ‘beneficial misfortune.’

Upon stumbling right up on this string of words, something overcame me- as it often does- and I had to write the phrase down.

Maybe you have experienced, (not unlike many other people) massive amounts of misfortune. Maybe you feel like you’ve been spinning your wheels for years, exhausting yourself for nothing. Perhaps you’ve been dealt a shitty hand, and through no fault of your own, you are constantly taking 2 steps forward, and 3 steps back.

That’s real sad man, but guess what? If you have been taking that beating from life all these years, but have failed to turn mistakes into opportunities…

then that is all on you.

I have very little trouble in finding something good that’s come from every bad thing I’ve ever gone through. In the moment, when bad things are happening, of course there have been road blocks and bad days. Ultimately however, I was blessed with the good sense to always be able to see the lesson, or the positive twist.

For this, I feel capable of seeing all misfortune as ‘beneficial misfortune.’ This is something I truly hope to impress upon my children’s minds as they grow up.